☼ Sad, depressed and cakes!

02/12/08

Went to the mall yesterday evening, eat my dinner at Red Ribbon. I really love the Dulche de Leche Junior Cake, I must say it’s the lightest cake I’ve ever tasted, thinking about it right now makes me want to buy it. Hahaha!! My mouth is watery right now, okay stop thinking about that cake. Next time, I’ll buy the whole.

Dulche de Leche Junior Cake!!! Yumm.. yumm!!

Right now while I was looking the internet I just saw some articles about depression and going to the mall spending some money buying stuffs, etc.. It just seem that what I’m feeling right now is what the article talks about. It says:

Why are sad people such big spenders? One idea is that feeling blue causes people to have a devalued sense of self, so spending more money on a new object — which people may identify, in a way, as an extension of themselves — starts to undo that deflation. "People want to value themselves, and this is one way to do it," says Cynthia Cryder, a doctoral candidate at Carnegie Mellon University and one of the study’s authors. That same emotional hunger may help to explain other costly behaviors, according to the authors, like aggressively playing the stock market or prowling for a new romance. The takeaway, especially for anyone on a budget: "If you’re sad, maybe you should seek out something other than shopping," says Cryder. "A new book to read, a new friendship. Something that’s novel and attractive to fill the need you’re seeking to fill."

But there might be another way, too. Part of the study revealed that there seems to be a process mediating the link between sadness and spending. That process is self-focus. Being sad and focusing one’s thoughts inwardly usually go hand in hand. The researchers came up with a way to tease the two apart and found that people who are sad, but not self-focused don’t spend as much. To break the link, you might, therefore, intentionally try to avoid self-focusing when you’re sad simply by thinking of other people. "You could try to think about others by rehearsing a series of sentences that involve others as the subject," says Cryder. "That makes sense to me as a researcher." Or you might just call a friend, and instead of suggesting a trip to the mall, ask how her day is.

Wow, that strikes me a bit. Now I understand why I always buy books, shirts, shoes and buying chocolates and cakes. And eating all by myself in the mall. Gahd. I’m such a loner. Boohoo.. It’s so sad to be me, really. My life is way too boring. I’m such a loser. I accept that.